School or Social?

[Piccolo Daimoun]

Theres something thats really been bugging me...It may not seem very important, and I guess its not, but its really messing with me lately, and I need peoples advice.

She puts tons of emphasise on school. She's obsessed with getting her mark higher, when its incredibly high already, at an 89.5 GPA. The problem is, she spends tons of time on homework. Excessive amounts, hours and hours on Homework per day. Shes one of my best friends, and shes cut off pretty much everyone in this obsession...I have a feeling she wants to be perfect.

I know it probably sounds selfish of me, but I really like being with her...shes a really good friend. My question to ask is how I could get her to put less emphasise on school?

It's not just me too...all her friends, ALL of them. She may leave the house for a social reason once a month. I just wanted to see what the community thought, as I couldn't come up with an answer...

I'd appreciate it if your answers were serious, but I'm not sure when to use the mature tag anymore...

[Krillin]

I've gotta go with Fuz on this one. The only thing that really matters at this point is schoolwork. Ninety percent of the friends you have now will have sunk out of touch by the time you hit thirty.

I'm not saying you should completely cut off your sociality and lock yourself in the steep towers of Academia, but considering how important this is for the rest of your life, it's big stuff.

[Piccolo Daimoun]

I didn't elaborate correctly...she does care about her success greatly, but it comes to her at a terrible price. Every day she is incredibly tired...I do not know the full of it, because I haven't talked to her in about a month...oh well...I suppose I should be happy shes successful...she just seems so...I dunno what the word is...sad...

Okay, I'll drop it...I'm just...concerned for her...I suppose I shouldn't be, the way shes going, but its...well I dunno how to say it.

[Android-18]

Just talk to her and tell her how you feel, if that doesn't work, she'll find out how hard work can bite you in the ass eventually.

[Piccolo Daimoun]

Thats the thing, I don't want to mess her up, but I don't want her to be...well alone I suppose...I guess I should tell her what I think.

[Android-18]

I mean, she'll work so hard she'll get sick, as I have...and I think that's why I'm sick now...

Anyway, like I said, just talk to her.

[Piccolo Daimoun]

I don't want to screw up her chances, god no. But...I just think that...well, for me anyway, work is a lot easier if your happy. I've done better on assignments that I took short breaks with them and gone out then just working my hands to the bone for the hour or two straight.

I will talk to her though, that is inevitable I believe.

[Android-18]

Only way you'll screw her up is if you tie her down and never let her do school stuff again. School is not that hard...I missed a LOT of school and still passed my classes, I even had 80% in some of them. Either I'm very, very smart or school is just very easy.

[Tobias]

Hard work has never payed off more than a half-assed attempt has with me as far as school work, so I never really developed... what do you folks call them... a work ethic. Sucks because with hobbies like drawing and writing and such It's abnormally hard for me to stick with it.

My own habits notwithstanding, your friend should learn to have some fun. It isn't psychologically or physically healthy to work all the time. Stress can do things to your body and mind.

[Piccolo Daimoun]

Thanks guys...It's good to ask this in a community sort of thing, I like to get both sides of an argument...

I should get her to have more of a social life, but I'm not gonna let it make her mark fall...I may have to ask her, but I think she takes a lot of extra stuff too...like a LOT...I do three extra curicular activities and I still have time for all my stuff, with a decent grade.

I will make sure to talk to her...hell, maybe we could to homework together or something.

[Old Dave]

Well when it comes down to it it's her choice, don't force change on her or she will end up holding a grudge.

Myself, I was a student that screwed off and had a great time and I managed to pull off a 3.85 GPA for highschool and a 1550 on my SAT's without studying for them. I'm not bragging or anything I'm just saying that you don't have to seclude yourself from your friends or family to do well, just balance you time in an orderly fashion so as not to fall grade wise.

But it's up to her she wants too do. You can only open the door for her PD, you can't force her to walk through it.

I hope you understand that phrase.

[Hellfighter 17]

Originally posted by Piccolo Daimaou
Thanks guys...It's good to ask this in a community sort of thing, I like to get both sides of an argument...

I should get her to have more of a social life, but I'm not gonna let it make her mark fall...I may have to ask her, but I think she takes a lot of extra stuff too...like a LOT...I do three extra curicular activities and I still have time for all my stuff, with a decent grade.

I will make sure to talk to her...hell, maybe we could to homework together or something.

I was gonna suggest that. =o Supporting her and being there for her could help make stuff a lot easier. I've recently taken up an interest in physics from starting this one book and it has inspired me to be a physicist. Just yesterday I was trying to read a book in the library at our school and a couple of friends kept on hassling me and they got me angry for the first time I've been in months. Basically, don't force yourself on her as Uub said, but even still some people need to work really hard to get good grades, while some can slack off and do the same. She might also be going an extra step to learn about what y'all are.

[Old Dave]

well not in those exact words mind you but close enough =)

[Piccolo Daimoun]

I wasn't planning on forcing her...Its no good if we do anything and she doesn't want to.

But yeah, I'll see if she wants to do homework with me or something along those lines...or we can do something really fun. *shrugs*

Oh and Cell, you made me laugh like crazy.

[Orion]

She's 14 and she's constantly studying? Nope. All work and no play is so very gay. There's plenty of time for doing bone breaking, mind numbing work when she gets to latter high school/university. When you're 14, you should be doing nothing but having fun. Of course, it's her choice.

[Piccolo Daimoun]

Hmm...I should tell her stuff like that, and of course its her choice...I'm gonna ask her to study with me or something like that on Monday.

[Tobias]

I think you need to open your eyes and realize that having a little fun in highschool isn't going to cause anyones downfall.

[Android-18]

No offense Freiza, but stfu for once. You know I'd hardly say it to you, but frankly, of all the people I know...you are the only one who needs help in the work department. You get something, and then slowly lose interest. Your advice in this subject is most likely moot, especially when you can only repeat the same worthless drab every damn time.

"Idiots, retards, stupid people."

Am I an idiot too? Because I had fun while in school as well. She'll fail if she doesn't lighten the fuck up, if her workload is as hard as I think it is, I have seen a lot of girls doing what she?s doing, and they end up screwing themselves up regardless.
High school (as my Grade 8 teacher told me) is one of the biggest events in your life. You will most likely lose your elementary friends, and make new lifelong friends. You should enjoy those years in high school, and prepare for collage, that is where you need to save your hard work for.

It's obvious she doesn?t need to work as hard as PD is saying she is, there is a difference between getting good grades and being psychologically obsessive compulsive.

So, Freiza, unless you have more to say other than we're all idiots for our opinions of what?s good for her or not, stop posting. I'm getting rather sick of your high post jabber, you have your opinion, and you don't need to continue flaunting it and making us all feel like we know nothing.

[Raditzu]

Or we could overexagerate every possible option and make everything sound horrible.

If she's this dedicated to studying and doing well in school, then the occasional night out isn't going to ruin anything. You know what's going to happen? She's going to burn herself out on studying through her senior year, then go to college and slip into a drunken stupor while barely passing half her classes. If people don't know how to manage their own social lives, then they suffer later on when its entirely up to them to manage their time.

Furiza, you're making it sound like its impossible to find a balance when I know that's not how you feel.

[Piccolo Daimoun]

Yeah...I really just wanted peoples opinions, as I was unsure.