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Hmm...oppions, please. - Android-18 - 11-03-2003
Ok, so I was talking to this guy and he said he was dating this girl when I asked if he had a girlfriend he said no, but he said he was dating a girl...but he said it isn't the same thing, so he's trying to get with this other girl.
Now, is that cheating? Is dating not a gf/bf thing? He says it's not, he says 'going steady' is a gf/bf thing, not dating.
I thought they were all the same thing...Bed buddies is different though, but I mean...if he intends on 'dating' someone while 'going steady' with someone...isn't that cheating? Well, I want your oppions.
Yes if you agree that dating and going steady is the same thing.
No if you think they are totally different and think he's doing the right thing.
No fighting.
**This isn't being done to me, this is about afriend of mine.**
Hmm...oppions, please. - Vegeta - 11-04-2003
Quote:Originally posted by Android 8
If he is dating a girl that girl is his girlfriend. Simple as that. Unless both of them agree its fine to date others then he is cheating.
Hmm...oppions, please. - Raditzu - 11-04-2003
There are no black and white answers to something like this. You cannot simply say "she is his girlfriend because they are dating." Life would be much easier if things went that way.
In addition to not knowing whether the 'couple' has talked about being exclusive or not, no one here (except 18, I'm assuming) knows how long these two have been going out, or how many dates they've been on, or how serious either of them are taking, or how well they knew each other before hand. The guys 18 mentioned has the most knowledge about the situation than anyone else. To say he is "cheating" on her with no supporting evidence is just a bad idea. You know what happens when you assume...
When most people start 'dating' it is under the assumption that they are now and will be exclusive for as long as they are dating. I think that is a horirble assumption to make. Knowing how many males my age like to act, I would think most people would make a point to say bring the exclusiveness of a relationship. (Is "exclusiveness" a word?)
Anyway, 18, I would tell you to ask your friend if she has talked to her "boyfriend" about whether or not they had decided about being exclusive, and then base any further opinions on how she answers.
That's just my two cents.
Hmm...oppions, please. - Android-18 - 11-04-2003
1. He won't let me ask her, he says she knows he's going after another girl. He says she's been his friend for a long time, and he just doesn't want to be tied down. He says all they do is kiss. I said, fine, just don't say you love her. He told me he's said I love you to about 6 or so girls, and he also said love in a relationship is called lust, and we all know they are two different words.
2. Did I mention Sarah (girl he's dating) is 14, catholic, and innocent to dating? And he's 17, though never done anything but kiss, but still dating a much younger girl than he should be? Direct quote from him:
casual dating is what I meant, i dont see the big deal, sarah knows im after lauren and she knew when i was after marta too. remember a couple of things here, sarah doesn't care that im going after lauren, shes young and doesn't want the major detication of a relationship. (shes 14, im 17, just a little age differnce) and i dont want the major detication either, im just out of a long term relationship and it ended by her cheating on me (yea thats a happy thought, i know.) Lauren is fair game, as far as i know so i'm trying to pick up a date.
Hmm...oppions, please. - Kami - 11-04-2003
*put hands up* I'm staying outta this, best option really.
But I do hope that your friends get things figured out.
Hmm...oppions, please. - Vegeta - 11-04-2003
ok. so far it's just a debate over definition of words.
if you are "dating" someone technically that means that you go on dates with them.
if someone is your boyfriend/girlfriend technically that means they are someone who you favor over the rest of your male/female friends.
cheating would be dating/sleeping with/kissing/etc someone without the knowledge of gf/bf/whatever. to cheat is to deceive.
it really has nothing to do with you as it is something that has to be defined for you. they should both know what is going on and if theyre okay with it then ok. it shouldn't even matter since it's them who are dating, not you.
if she doesn't like him cheating or she believes he is being unfaithful (vice versa) then she can just not date him anymore or not talk to him or whatever.
it sounds more like he just has to have a secure date before he lets go of his other dates. pathetic.
and raditzu... it wasn't really a case arguement. it would be impossible to argue this case with so little in the way of facts. for all intents and purposes there is no one answer for the question. it is a matter of opinion and circumstances, in one instance it could be cheating but in another it may not. although, cheating is something that should truely be applied to serious relationships; engagement and marriage. if your bf/gf run off and screw someone else you can either leave them or wait for them to leave you.... or end up on jerry springer.
i don't think i used a single capital letter in this post..
Hmm...oppions, please. - Raditzu - 11-04-2003
What I meant from my post was that people should not be making so matter-of-fact statements like "If he is dating a girl that girl is his girlfriend. Simple as that. Unless both of them agree its fine to date others then he is cheating." with no real knowledge of the situation. Which is something you agree on yourself, assuming I correctly read your post. I did not intend my post to be an argument, simply my opinion on the situation mentioned and what other people had said. The intent was not to debate the opinions of others, rather give my opinion.
And no... there was not a single capital letter.
Hmm...oppions, please. - Android-18 - 11-04-2003
This is more on what you all think about the situation, not just him, but if anyone did this.
And the fact that he wouldnt even let me talk to her in chat with him even there, made me wonder if he was even telling the truth that she knew what he was doing.
Hmm...oppions, please. - Vegeta - 11-04-2003
Quote:Originally posted by Raditzu
What I meant from my post was that people should not be making so matter-of-fact statements like "If he is dating a girl that girl is his girlfriend. Simple as that. Unless both of them agree its fine to date others then he is cheating." with no real knowledge of the situation. Which is something you agree on yourself, assuming I correctly read your post. I did not intend my post to be an argument, simply my opinion on the situation mentioned and what other people had said. The intent was not to debate the opinions of others, rather give my opinion.
And no... there was not a single capital letter.
The entire point of my post was to start a pointless arguement. :\
Hmm...oppions, please. - Raditzu - 11-04-2003
I hate you.
Hmm...oppions, please. - Raditzu - 11-05-2003
Agreed, but "dating" does not always mean girlfriend/boyfriend. That is what was said by the person I quoted in my above post.
Hmm...oppions, please. - Android-18 - 11-05-2003
Dating: Going on dates, like to a movie, usually lasts for a day, maybe a little longer. Correct?
He's been with her for a long time...And has gone for 2 other girls during that time.
I mean, he can do what he wants, it's his life. I just think he needs to understand the correct meaning of what he's doing, he's a player, simple as that.
Hmm...oppions, please. - Android-18 - 11-05-2003
They aren't...They all look young and kinda ugly, he likes to show me pics of them.
Hmm...oppions, please. - Vegeta - 11-05-2003
Oh, so he is a pedophile..
Hmm...oppions, please. - Android-18 - 11-06-2003
O_o...Aside from the dsturbing thoughts of going out with Kami, you're correct. That's what he's doing.
Hmm...oppions, please. - Kami - 11-06-2003
"Har har har! I am 733t I have a grlfrend!! Har Har!! I r0x0rs!! My grlfrend is sooooo hott!!!!!11111 I am soooo buffxors!!! I 0wnz0rs y0u !!!111!!"
.....*shakes head* I don't know why I did that, but I think it's funny
Quote:Originally posted by Android-18
O_o...Aside from the dsturbing thoughts of going out with Kami, you're correct. That's what he's doing.
Gee, thanks. Love you too.
Hmm...oppions, please. - Android-18 - 11-06-2003
Hmm...oppions, please. - Android-18 - 11-06-2003
It's plain out pedophinila.
These are the girls he's wanted or has:
http://www.angelfire.com/rpg2/finalfantasyuc/Marta.jpg (Girl he wants but she's taken)
http://www.angelfire.com/rpg2/finalfantasyuc/Freshysarah.jpg (Girl he's with now)
The other girl I can't find the pic of.
Hmm...oppions, please. - Android-18 - 11-07-2003
His ex: http://www.angelfire.com/rpg2/finalfantasyuc/GandFL03.jpg
Hmm...oppions, please. - Vegeta - 11-07-2003
wtf.. freak