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gurl twubble - Bojack - 06-18-2007
Long story short, there is this girl I have been seeing for a long time at the library. I have been getting the vibe/look from her for a while, and I think she would like to get to know me. Last Saturday she came over to my table (she works there) and she asked me about some book she 'thought was from the shelf'.
1) She called me 'sweetheart'. I don't get it. Evan said it could be she thought I looked 12, or possibly retarded. I'm 99% sure I look neither, so it's been racking my brain why she called me that. Maybe she is socially inept like me and just didn't know what to say, although she sounded very charming.
2) She's like, extremely hawt... I don't get that either. Maybe she is just like me, except actually attractive. That's comforting I guess
Bottom line, it's obvious she wants to touch my penis (Harold and Kumar ftw), but idk wtf to do. Ben and Evan have told me to just walk up to her and talk to her, something I REALLY doubt I will be able to do. But I'm going to stop cockblocking myself (Ben's advice) and just do eet. But it's not that easy for someone who doesn't even feel comfortable talking to other males.
Any advice, reassurance, etc. would be helpful. =o
gurl twubble - Downy Peach - 06-18-2007
I hate situations like this; it's when I'm most nervous and I say something really funny. I guess it's okay if you're joking around, but not when you want to get to know someone better. Especially if you have a dry sense of humor as well. Just talk. I know about this sort of shit myself, because I hate chit-chat.
gurl twubble - Raditzu - 06-18-2007
Either say something or get over it. Doing neither will just leave you sitting around annoying yourself because you can't stop thinking about it.
Something along the lines of "hey, would you be interested in grabbing something to eat?" generally works.
gurl twubble - Captain Silver - 06-18-2007
Show her this thread!
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gurl twubble - Bujin - 06-18-2007
Captain Silver Wrote:Show her this thread!
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Good idea. You can show her that you're convinced that she wants to touch your penis.
My advice would be something along the lines of what Rad said. Only don't let the sweetheart thing go to your head, because some girls just say that out of being friendly.
gurl twubble - Celipa - 06-18-2007
Once I thought something similiar about a girl but it turns out she was staring at something behind me, every single day. Her eyes were real deep and meaningful so I thought she was gazing at me lovingly.
xD
Also, think of it this way. Do you always like every girl you look at? I've stared at girls and not been remotely interested in them.
gurl twubble - Nori - 06-18-2007
That's because you are a tease, Kiro.
gurl twubble - Celipa - 06-18-2007
Yeah...I'm always pulling up my shirt, and rubbing myself a bit whilst staring at them. Girls always have this look that's like, "Tease."
gurl twubble - Nori - 06-18-2007
I know. That's what you did to me first time I met you.
gurl twubble - Celipa - 06-18-2007
Yeah. I remember. You couldn't shift your gaze for three days, even when I wasn't there anymore.
Anyway, yeah, do what FEELS right. Mainly, just be yourself and force your company on her until she makes hints that she wants you to go away. You've got to be the outgoing one.
gurl twubble - Mowgli - 06-18-2007
Bujin Wrote:My advice would be something along the lines of what Rad said. Only don't let the sweetheart thing go to your head, because some girls just say that out of being friendly.
Or you can just act like you're typing. Say what you'd say to any of us on aim, except lol or XD, that'd just be weird.
I know it's cliche, but just be yourself, bro. She's no different from you; she's made of flesh, skin and bone. So take her off the pedestal off put her on. Just walk up and be like: "Hey, how's it goin'?" Then talk to her like you usually do, about books and all that, then at the end be like: "You know, I've enjoyed talking to you a lot and was wondering if you'd like to hang out sometime. You know, someplace other than the library *smile*"
After that what's the worst that can happen? She sounds nice so she would probably let you down soft, if she's on crack. You're fuckin' Bojack, stop being a bitch, bitch! The only reason she would decline is because you just aren't her type, so in the end she's saving you from the heartbreak that comes after a failed relationship. So if she declines (highly doubt she will) that just means that somewhere in your future you're destined to find an even hotter, cooler chick.
Btw, don't push yourself out there and be all afraid you'll choke or fuck up, cuz guess what happens then? You do. Be confident, but not arrogant. By confident I don't mean fake it either, be proud of who you are but don't beast, you know?
gurl twubble - Nori - 06-18-2007
Goku Jr Wrote:You're fuckin' Bojack, stop being a bitch, bitch!
Made me think of that Juggernaut video. XD
gurl twubble - Blind Man - 06-19-2007
I suggest surprise buttsecks because it means you can forgo the talking. It works, promise. Might be harder to sneak up in a library though, since it's quiet.
gurl twubble - Talys - 06-19-2007
Ok, don't jump right into things here. You don't have to put yourself immediately into an awkward situation with dates and what not. You obviously see her around enough that it's acceptable to talk with her. Just talk a bit, maybe about book rocommendations or something (this is a library right?). See what kind of stuff she likes to do outside of work through simple conversation. If you find a link, go for it.
Example conversation:
"Hey."
"Hi, how can I help you?" (Being all work like and professional)
"Well, I've seen you around a bit and was wondering if you had any recommendations."
And then it's either:
"Oh, of course!"
or
"That depends. . .what do you like?"
Either way it doesn't matter, you've got a conversation going about things that she likes which is and easy conversation to hold.
Then on the second or third day of talking.
"So what other kind of stuff do you like to do?"
"Oh, well I'm into [insert a few hobbies here eg. Ski diving, bungee jumping, bowling, cooking, reading, Extreme figure skating, etc.]"
"Really! I love bowling myself. . .I might be going this Friday, actually, want to come?"
Just keep it simple.
gurl twubble - Josh - 06-19-2007
Raditzu Wrote:Something along the lines of "hey, would you be interested in grabbing something to eat?" generally works.
And then you take her out for some meaty sausage pizza.
gurl twubble - Kirano - 06-19-2007
Jack, what's the worst that could happen? Just go over and talk to her. I know you're uncomfortable and all, so try not to fumble with your words. Just act cool. She's a human being just like you at the end of the day. Don't feel no way about it.
gurl twubble - Zorn - 06-19-2007
Ya'll met in a library and you think she's calling sweethart in a playful mood? Yeah right. but like was forementioned, don't let it go to your head. If you're that scared to talk to her, send her a note, maybe with a flower or something? that will definitly interest...plus its original.
gurl twubble - Raz - 06-20-2007
Strut when you walk, thrust your crotch out when you stand at a pose (when you pose ALWAYS put your hands at your sides), when near a chair or something of decent level place a foot on it as though you've got a little Captain Morgan in you. And if all else fails, try talking to her in a British accent while making crude low-key sexual remarks. Trust me.
gurl twubble - Jewtastic - 06-20-2007
Zorn Wrote:Ya'll met in a library and you think she's calling sweethart in a playful mood? Yeah right. but like was forementioned, don't let it go to your head. If you're that scared to talk to her, send her a note, maybe with a flower or something? that will definitly interest...plus its original.
How exactly is a note with a flower original. I did that shit freshman year.
gurl twubble - Krillin - 06-20-2007
I really don't know what to suggest. At the risk of sounding ignorant, I'm pretty smooth when it comes to social encounters, so my suggestion would be to just be 'natural'. If you're convinced that doesn't work (or if it's so entirely vague that you just don't want to sort it out), then be casual, as Rad said. Ask her out, vaguely. Don't make it a clear-cut weapon and be like "Hey, you're really cute, and I really want to ask you out."
Try to notice what it is she brings in with her to the library. Does she bring in coffee? Invite her to the local coffeehouse to discuss literature. Roll with it.
EDIT: Please tell me you're not in this for sex.
EDIT2: Flower with a note is risky. If the girl was a bit insecure, then this would probably be a somewhat decent move, but I'm not getting that kind of a vibe from you. Wait awhile before you make a move that big. Be like a lawyer: "Don't ask a question you don't know the answer to," unless you're willing to take the risk.