The Like/Hate Thread

[Jonathan Meer]

Hate: wtb single female in Ohio that doesn't have a kid, a crazy ex-boyfriend, or enters a relationship thinking I'm the devil.

OkCupid and PlentyOfFish. Stick at it.

Inject a bit more levity into your profile. Don't look so glum and angry in your profile pics.

Your profile paints you as humorless. You're not. You actually have a great sense of humor. Chicks dig that.

[Super Buu]

Don't go on plentyoffish. Also be prepared for all the above to still not work.

[Jonathan Meer]

PoF IS shit, but occasionally some chick stumbles on there that's not fucked up and somehow doesn't know about okc.

[Jonathan Meer]

uh wut: I'm managing 160 kb/s for FIFA 12 on Origin. That's the best you can do, EA? Seriously?

[Vad]

OkCupid and PlentyOfFish. Stick at it.

Inject a bit more levity into your profile. Don't look so glum and angry in your profile pics.

Your profile paints you as humorless. You're not. You actually have a great sense of humor. Chicks dig that.

Recent events have made me reevaluate the kid thing. Otherwise the rest stands.

[Jarka]

OkCupid and PlentyOfFish. Stick at it.

Inject a bit more levity into your profile. Don't look so glum and angry in your profile pics.

Your profile paints you as humorless. You're not. You actually have a great sense of humor. Chicks dig that.

Weemus has a point with adjusting bits of your profile and pictures. If you want me to help you go over it with you, I'd be glad to.

[Anzekay]

The online dating thread on the PA forums has some really good guides/suggestions in the OP. Too long to copy-past here, so here's a link.

[Vad]

Weemus has a point with adjusting bits of your profile and pictures. If you want me to help you go over it with you, I'd be glad to.

No thanks. Alex would be the first to tell you that conforming to a specific how-to pisses me off. The right one will look past the surface. Till then. Fuck everything.

Society can blow me.

[Jonathan Meer]

It's not a matter of conforming to a plan. It's about communicating clearly and effectively. You aren't doing that now. You aren't representing who you are. ie, the humor

[Ashe]

The point they are trying to get across, Vad, is that you can't make yourself unapproachable (even if that is not your intention) and then expect to be approached. Look at it this way - when you want to buy a game or computer part, you are going to research the product. You are going to read reviews. You are going to look at what the specs are and see if it will improve the quality of your system. You are going to look into the company behind it and find out what their reputation is regarding stability and service.

What you aren't going to do is grab the box on the shelf covered in sand and paint with no information on it. Forget a thought of "I shouldn't take it thinking its a diamond in the rough, I should take it for other reasons and be pleasantly surprised", because you aren't going to even consider the passing interest in taking it. It will in no way have appealed to any of your interests. It could be some kind of alien computer part that has the ability to boost your computer's power to beyond anything we're capable of while simultaneously waking you up with blowjobs and coffee in the morning and you aren't going to take it if there are other, equally obtainable options with even a passing interest in appealing to your curiosities.

In other words, two assumptions are going to be made by someone looking at you if I interpret their descriptions correctly - Either someone is going to think that you aren't interesting at all, or someone's going to think that you are too lazy or don't give enough shits to put some effort into it (and by extension, them). Both are going to push people away that could quite honestly have been great matches that would have been looking for a sense of humor such as yours but had no reason to suspect you of having it.

[Vad]

Well I respectfully declined Emily's input and I'm not too keen on taking relationship advice from someone I dislike. So yeah. There's that. I also haven't been too fond of how Emily treats me sometimes either. So taking advice from them leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I've never been good at describing myself. I'm an in the moment person. Summarizing myself trivializes everything that I am and how flexible my personality is so I really don't do it. It's a personal choice. Whether or not it's compatible with everything you just said Ashe is irrelevant to me in this stage of my life. I'd rather fornicate myself with an iron stick. My kind and gentle side is too inward focused and comfortable being alone by myself to care and my angry side would rather watch the world burn around me for amusement.

I try. I fail. I realize more things about myself. I move on. I'm a well oiled emotional machine.

[Jarka]

Wow.

[Ashe]

Well I respectfully declined Emily's input and I'm not too keen on taking relationship advice from someone I dislike. So yeah. There's that. I also haven't been too fond of how Emily treats me sometimes either. So taking advice from them leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I've never been good at describing myself. I'm an in the moment person. Summarizing myself trivializes everything that I am and how flexible my personality is so I really don't do it. It's a personal choice. Whether or not it's compatible with everything you just said Ashe is irrelevant to me in this stage of my life. I'd rather fornicate myself with an iron stick. My kind and gentle side is too inward focused and comfortable being alone by myself to care and my angry side would rather watch the world burn around me for amusement.

I try. I fail. I realize more things about myself. I move on. I'm a well oiled emotional machine.

That's fine as long as you realize that the exact decisions and personality traits you are reflecting upon in your post is detrimental to the exact situations of which you are growing tired. Solutions to problems, especially problems that seem to hurt you so much, are things you have to actually want. Until you come to that decision, I hope things try to work themselves out as best as they are able within the range you are expecting.

EDIT: I'm also well aware that you will likely disagree and we will find ourselves at an impasse, but I do feel that, ignoring anyone's opinion on actions outside of this circumstance, the above posts from all were in an effort to help you because of someone wanting to take a moment of their time to assist you with something that pains you.

Also...

[Android 17]

And this is the point in the conversation where everyone just awkwardly shuffles their feet, starts whistling, and walks away.

On unrelated news, I'm ill during my time off, and I want to burn down many trees. Also, I got a text message informing me that it is my aunt's birthday today. The same aunt who has never bothered to call me or send me a birthday card since I was eight. Tch.

And finally: I've started re-playing through Chrono Trigger, because my efforts to focus on school work wind up in me just wheezing and sneezing and otherwise being gross onto these stupid things I have to return. The game is fun, though. It's been long enough that the storyline's fuzzy enough in my head for me to enjoy playing it.

[Vad]

That's fine as long as you realize that the exact decisions and personality traits you are reflecting upon in your post is detrimental to the exact situations of which you are growing tired. Solutions to problems, especially problems that seem to hurt you so much, are things you have to actually want. Until you come to that decision, I hope things try to work themselves out as best as they are able within the range you are expecting.

EDIT: I'm also well aware that you will likely disagree and we will find ourselves at an impasse, but I do feel that, ignoring anyone's opinion on actions outside of this circumstance, the above posts from all were in an effort to help you because of someone wanting to take a moment of their time to assist you with something that pains you.

That post was more or less an unrestrained response. I was not being held back by mental barriers, because my temper was leaking through. I was angry because I had fallen in the shower earlier that day and smashed my tail bone. The same place I had surgery on. That and I had a mild form of food poisoning last night. I was in a lot of pain.

@Ashe: My entire problem is effort. You're exactly correct. It's unfair for me to expect any different, but my lack of effort is directly related to my apathy for life that I've grown to accept to keep myself from being hurt. So far it's worked most of the time. I read my response from last night and I can honestly say...

Wow.

I digress this conversation. Go back to liking and hating things. This is the last you'll hear of this. I promise.

Hate: Eating the paper on a mini cupcake because you didn't realize it was wrapped.

Hate: Eating what you thought was okay peta bread only to find out that it DID have mold on it.

[Dehan]

Hate: eating lots of cheese on a dare.

Hate: the aftermath of eating lots of cheese and drinking disgusting mountain dew energy drink.

Like: my toilet is now more powerful than it has ever been.

[Vad]

Like: my toilet is now more powerful than it has ever been.

Mine can flush rocks.

[John Doe]

Like: http://ow.ly/i/D8Rj

[Vad]

HAHA YES

[Super Buu]

ohh

myyyyy

GOOOOOODDDD

Wait I don't have a TV connection. Oh well, still awesome.