The RIOT Act

[Jonathan Meer]

Ok. See. That doesn't bother me. It really doesn't. If you had said that right after the game, I would have been like "ugh... oh well." Mistakes happen. All the time. Just own them.

I do stupid shit all the time and you'll constantly hear me say things like "well that was really dumb" or "definitely shouldn't have chased that" and own up to what I did wrong.

The other night Tryg wanted to run a duo ranked with me so there wasn't any chance he would get Elo-decayed out of his gold rating. Ninety seconds into the game I flash over a wall to chase a level one fight and get decimated. 100% my fault and 100% preventable. I'm sure, at that point, he was thinking something along the lines of "that fucking Kaden is going to cost me my gold." Instead of just brushing it off or explaining it as someone else's fault I owned up to it, focused on not doing the same thing twice and you know what happened? The two of us fucking wrecked that game. I died only one more time after that stupid Flash and we just pub stomped us some bitches.

When you say things like "well its over now" or make excuses about how someone/thing else caused a mistake, you're not going to get any better. You're going to be stuck at the 1100 Elo swearing you're just in Elo hell and that you should be way better and it's everyone else's fault. I genuinely don't want to see that happen to people I know it shouldn't happen to. And I'm not just saying this to Raf. This is always a problem. There's absolutely nothing wrong with making a mistake. There's no reason to get defensive or mad or whatever. Just synthesize the criticism and turn it into an experience you can use going forward.

EDIT: And I swore I wasn't going to write this post because I definitely don't think anything good will come of it. Beer, as it turns out, is greater than me.

Helpful post.