02-16-2006, 02:38 AM
I would like some help with a problem I have. Please be nice when replying this is something that means a lot to me and I?m turning here for help in anyway.
Umm, I was in a relationship and could never have been any more happy. However three weeks ago my ex called me drunk and said that she didn?t want to be with me. I said, ok she is drunk, I will not take it personal. I saw them two days later on Sunday face to face to mention what they had said to me cause it hurt. I never ever saw anything like this coming. She said on Sunday that we should take some time apart and take it day by day. I said ok. Monday I pull an all-nighter and she explodes late at night time with me how we can not be together anymore. I say ok, ill give you time sorry we couldn?t take this day by day. So I wait for her to come to me, she comes and talks to me over MSN and I act like we used to and so does she. Later that night, I?m up again pulling another all-nighter and she comes on and out of nowhere says ?its over for good?. I calm her down but the things she said were very hurtful. I say I want to meet and talk about wants going on. She says simple, No. I wait for her to come to me, here and there sending little e-mails like I used to, simple of how my day was and how she was. (This is how we first met. So I hopped this nice style of e-mailing would let her know im not mad at her in anyway and im here for her) I have hope that when she is ready we can work things out. So I buy her a gift just out of friendship and plan to give it to her on V-day, but I don?t want to pressure her into seeing me. So I plan to give it to a friend we have in common. V-day comes. I get the mega load, such a hatful e-mail that I never saw coming, how she never wants to see me again. I reply trying to have an open mind with both sides as to what has gone wrong. Today I get an e-mail in response simple saying that ?she hates me, she got up one day and hated me. She does not want a friendship or relationship. She never wants to see me again.? This e-mail was so much filled with hate, I am just so taken back. Like I don?t understand? How could someone just wake up one day, feel in their gut that they hate someone and simple hate them.
We had good times, I know that.
I?m just so lost, this has never happened to me. This hate towards me. I don?t know, im just dead inside now. I don?t know what to do.
Any help would be grateful, actually I don?t know. Im just so lost and Chubbs has been my home for some time. I know I don?t talk a lot but I read the boards every night. I don?t know, maybe someone could help. I?m just lost.
Thank you for your time.
Umm, I was in a relationship and could never have been any more happy. However three weeks ago my ex called me drunk and said that she didn?t want to be with me. I said, ok she is drunk, I will not take it personal. I saw them two days later on Sunday face to face to mention what they had said to me cause it hurt. I never ever saw anything like this coming. She said on Sunday that we should take some time apart and take it day by day. I said ok. Monday I pull an all-nighter and she explodes late at night time with me how we can not be together anymore. I say ok, ill give you time sorry we couldn?t take this day by day. So I wait for her to come to me, she comes and talks to me over MSN and I act like we used to and so does she. Later that night, I?m up again pulling another all-nighter and she comes on and out of nowhere says ?its over for good?. I calm her down but the things she said were very hurtful. I say I want to meet and talk about wants going on. She says simple, No. I wait for her to come to me, here and there sending little e-mails like I used to, simple of how my day was and how she was. (This is how we first met. So I hopped this nice style of e-mailing would let her know im not mad at her in anyway and im here for her) I have hope that when she is ready we can work things out. So I buy her a gift just out of friendship and plan to give it to her on V-day, but I don?t want to pressure her into seeing me. So I plan to give it to a friend we have in common. V-day comes. I get the mega load, such a hatful e-mail that I never saw coming, how she never wants to see me again. I reply trying to have an open mind with both sides as to what has gone wrong. Today I get an e-mail in response simple saying that ?she hates me, she got up one day and hated me. She does not want a friendship or relationship. She never wants to see me again.? This e-mail was so much filled with hate, I am just so taken back. Like I don?t understand? How could someone just wake up one day, feel in their gut that they hate someone and simple hate them.
We had good times, I know that.
I?m just so lost, this has never happened to me. This hate towards me. I don?t know, im just dead inside now. I don?t know what to do.
Any help would be grateful, actually I don?t know. Im just so lost and Chubbs has been my home for some time. I know I don?t talk a lot but I read the boards every night. I don?t know, maybe someone could help. I?m just lost.
Thank you for your time.