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Hopefully I'll be able to stick around for a while, but I don't know anymore. I got home from work about 30 minutes ago only to find my wife, and everything she owns, gone. I'm sad to say that I believe my marriage is over and with it, everything I had left of a heart.
I gave up so much for this relationship and now, it's over. I'm not feeling really good rightnow, suicide is racing fiercly through my mind. I can't stop crying.
Everything was good last night, then this morning, my life changed, for the worst.
I'm not sure if I can carry on without her...I just don't feel like living anymore.
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Someone add the spam-off tag to this... >_>
Well...dunno what to say...if you're leaving...good luck with whatever you intend to do...
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I don't want to leave and I don't plan on it, but I just don't know what to do.
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Well...sorry...dunno what to say...I've never been in any place like that...and seeing as how I even consider my own life atm, which is like....not even remotely close to yours, fucked up, I think suicide would be a pretty healthy option at that time...
Though I probably wouldn't do it...because yea...you got f-ed...your life is in shambles, etc, etc, however, never give up...life may be hard on you...but eventually it'll get better...even though it'll take a while... What you need to look out for now is getting to depressed...my dad's uncle did that, and even though he didn't commit suicide, all the stress of thinking it's his fault (about the same thing happened to him) caused him to get ulcer, and eventually got really sick and died in hospital...
If you're getting depressed and need to talk but the others are offline, you've got my AIM, we can talk...I'm depressed myself...but over a completely (well...not entirely) different matter...
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"Living well is the best revenge."
also, do a barrel roll. call in vacation for a week and find something to do that is relaxing for you. it'll be a big adjustment but it's doable.
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I`m sorry things have turned as badly as they did.
I won`t pretend to be an expert on such things and neither are you obliged to listen to my advice. But killing yourself not solve any problems. If it can be considered a solution, it is a Phirric one at best (I know, easy for me to say...)
The best thing to do now is take a break from everything and just confront with your emotions. If your wife calls you, try to solve things out (if it is possible). If things go for the worst, get used to your new life. It`ll help you deal with your problems and hopefully find a bright spot in the future. If you have trouble in this regard, visit a psychiatrist. No, not beacuse your going insane or anything, but psychiatrist are experts on mental issues and will at least in some way help you go through this.
That is just my humble advice, but you should listen to someone who knows these things better.
However, what I can do better, is wish you the best of luck. I hope things will turn out better. As my friends quote goes:
"Life is problems. Living is solving problems."
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Damn it, I don't know what to say. This is shitty beyond belief.
Take Waffuru's advice and take some time off. This is obviously something big, and whilst I wish I could help, I don't think there's much we can do. If you need someone to rant at, you know I'm here on MSN.
It's going to take some time to get over it, but your life isn't over. If you can't fix, then rebuild.
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Yeah, just try to take a breather or whatever until you've gotten over it. It's not the end of the world, nor your life. It's simply a different stage.
Also, you could always rebuild things with your wife later.
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Hang in there man. Hang in there. Just whatever you do, don't become a statistic. Just don't do it. No matter how bad things may seem, suicide is never the answer.
But I'm so sorry to hear that. I wish I could do something to help you out. If you need to talk on AIM ever, just let me know and I'll get online. That's just... horrible man, but don't ever consider ending it all just because of one person in your life, no matter who it was.
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I'm so scared that it's over that I can't sleep. =(
I didn't think I'd ever be like this, you know, woman leaves, I thought I'd be a hard ass and push through it, but right now I feel like a child abandoned in a foreign place without anything or anyone. I'm so alone right now and I can't do anything about it.
EDIT: Thoughts of Suicide have passed, now I'm just extremely depressed.
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Quote:Originally posted by Pan
EDIT: Thoughts of Suicide have passed, now I'm just extremely depressed.
Don't even think about it. If you wanna talk come on MSN.
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Never let yourself stay depressed to long. Go talk to someone, make new friends, etc, Stress like that can do bad things...
If you want to talk, get on AIM/MSN/YiM and add me. rushcs1991 everywhere (@hotmail.com for MSN)
Remember that it's not the end of the world...you've got any number of tries left...this isn't a game with "Continues Left: 0 Game Over" displaying, this is real life, and you can do many things about it. Try and find other oportunities to socialise...
Remember, you've gone through the trouble of finding someone you love once, you can do it again...
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Our relationship was(maybe is???) far far perfect, we've been in marriage counciling for about a year now and this is the note I recieved when I walked in.
"I will see you at our appt. Mon. @ 3pm. I will explain. I do still love you."
I don't know what this means, but it scares me...to no end. When she talks like this, it usually isn't a good sign.
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I guess you really have no choice but to go on the appointment and hope for the best.
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Part of me is saying that I shouldn't go. To just let the relationship die. She walked out on me without so much as a goodbye and expects me to just wait for her to announce to me what is going on.
But part of me wants to go, that way if there is any chance that we can still be together, we'd give it another shot.
I'm at a cross roads. =(
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What he said...you can only go there and hope for the best...
EDIT:
Maybe it's not what it looks like...I say go there, and hope for the best. My bet is that it's the depression that's talking... >_>
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I'm going to go. I just hope that I don't get like a...
"I slept with another man, so I left you so I couldn't hurt you anymore" or something like that. >.<
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Quote:Originally posted by Pan
I'm going to go. I just hope that I don't get like a...
"I slept with another man, so I left you so I couldn't hurt you anymore" or something like that. >.<
My thoughts are with you. Good luck tommorow.
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Thanks Jackie...means a lot to see people trying to lift me up in such a hard time.
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Good luck.
And, hey, ever seen chubbsians not try to uhm...'un-depress'...other chubbsians? (There are some exceptions though... >_>)
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