Lonely and its my fault

[Olibu]

Alright, some shit went down about a year ago with a girl that I loved. She basically ripped my heart out, but that?s not the problem. The problem is that ever since then I haven't been able to have a serious relationship. Or hell, an actual relationship at all. I have been with plenty of girls since then, but I can't manage to get serious with them. I try, but I just can't get close to anyone. It really annoys me because I see all my friends getting serious with their girlfriends and all I can manage to do is the one night hook up. I don't want that, its lonely. What do I need to do to get over my commitment issues? I know I don?t know anyone here really, and it may seem weird that I?m asking, but it is because of that that I can ask you guys. Its just awkward talking about this to people I have to see day in and day out. =/

[Grandpa Gohan]

Well first and foremost. Do you still like/love her? If you do, good luck being in any serious relationship untill you get over it.

If not, then, well something's wrong. Try harder, or if you're trying too hard, back off. Women are complex creatures, if cared for correctly, they're like a beatiful rose, though if mistreated, they're like an uncut rose. Also, the phrase "Hell has no fury like a woman's scorn" comes to mind.

[Jeice]

Originally posted by Grandpa Gohan
Well first and foremost. Do you still like/love her? If you do, good luck being in any serious relationship untill you get over it.

Yeah, if your minds set on one particular girl...then the other ones that you...do whatever with...aren't going to be good enough. If this is the case, and you don't or wont have a relationship with the old girl...then...your going to have to move on...which sucks but it's what would need to be done...an easy way to do that would be to...find a substitute girl, not just anyone though someone that you think would be just as good or better then the old girlfriend...I'm not sure how acurate my advice is right now, it's 2:30 a.m. and I'm tired so yeah...but I figured I'd try to help .

[Blind Man]

Don't look for somebody. Don't go out searching and hoping to find the right one. It's gonna suck but you have to lay back and just be yourself and do whatever, don't try to meet new people, let the new people come to you, because unfortunately if you are trying to get somebody, you won't. I've learned this personally. Let them come to you, there'll be one eventually. Just don't expect the first one to be an intense relationship like the last one. A generation gets older and the relationships get more serious, but a new relationship is just that: new. You can't start out serious because it won't work out. Give it more time and lay low. It'll come.

And if all else fails, try boys. But the first suggestion should be fine.

[Captain Silver]

I 100% agree with Corniss.

[King Cold444]

Originally posted by Pui Pui
I 100% agree with Corniss.

[Captain Silver]

Anything can happen at any time, if you fall in love with someone out of no where, then great. Sometimes it may take time, or whatever. You just need to be willing and not throw in the towel like a fag and then walk away like "omg she was such a bitch", maybe not exactly like that, but you get my point. Anything, can and will happen at anytime.

[Olibu]

You guys are missing the point... Finding girls is no problem, I do that easily (Not bragging) the problem is that I can't commit, and I really want to. I don't know why, its fucked up really...

[Hellfighter 17]

They are saying that you are looking for the one, or someone who you can commit with, and apparently you can't find them.

[Alsa]

Originally posted by Corniss
Don't look for somebody. Don't go out searching and hoping to find the right one. It's gonna suck but you have to lay back and just be yourself and do whatever, don't try to meet new people, let the new people come to you, because unfortunately if you are trying to get somebody, you won't. I've learned this personally. Let them come to you, there'll be one eventually. Just don't expect the first one to be an intense relationship like the last one. A generation gets older and the relationships get more serious, but a new relationship is just that: new. You can't start out serious because it won't work out. Give it more time and lay low. It'll come.

And if all else fails, try boys. But the first suggestion should be fine.

I agree with every part of this post except the bottom.

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Originally posted by Migoren
You guys are missing the point... Finding girls is no problem, I do that easily (Not bragging) the problem is that I can't commit, and I really want to. I don't know why, its fucked up really...

Still, take that advice. Dont go looking for girls. If one comes to you, then you know that it'll last longer, because they have had feelings for you, as well for awhile.

[Celipa]

Ok, well, I can feel your pain man. First off. And second off, there's no help for it. Time heals all wounds, and that's true for this.

Was it your first love? Or like, what you thought was love.

[Olibu]

First person I ever cared more about than myself, and...well I'm a self centered bastard =/

[Aero]

Originally posted by Corniss
Don't look for somebody. Don't go out searching and hoping to find the right one. It's gonna suck but you have to lay back and just be yourself and do whatever, don't try to meet new people, let the new people come to you, because unfortunately if you are trying to get somebody, you won't. I've learned this personally. Let them come to you, there'll be one eventually. Just don't expect the first one to be an intense relationship like the last one. A generation gets older and the relationships get more serious, but a new relationship is just that: new. You can't start out serious because it won't work out. Give it more time and lay low. It'll come.

And if all else fails, try boys. But the first suggestion should be fine.

Or set aside love and just fuck as many girls as you can before you're tied into another relationship.

[Retane]

Yea. Keep having those one night stands. You'll end up with your dick rotting off or a few extra mouths to feed a little to soon.

There is a reason you guys are broke up. And it sounds like she did the breaking up and it sounds like it was prolly your fault.

But if you do like Gokua said...someone that thinks getting high all the time is a good thing... then you're soon going to realize that those one night stands are because you sucked in bed and were a sorry ass dick. And I'm not just talking about whats in your pants.

[Blind Man]

Originally posted by Gokua

Originally posted by Corniss
Don't look for somebody. Don't go out searching and hoping to find the right one. It's gonna suck but you have to lay back and just be yourself and do whatever, don't try to meet new people, let the new people come to you, because unfortunately if you are trying to get somebody, you won't. I've learned this personally. Let them come to you, there'll be one eventually. Just don't expect the first one to be an intense relationship like the last one. A generation gets older and the relationships get more serious, but a new relationship is just that: new. You can't start out serious because it won't work out. Give it more time and lay low. It'll come.

And if all else fails, try boys. But the first suggestion should be fine.

Or set aside love and just fuck as many girls as you can before you're tied into another relationship.

In the words of the grandpa from "Little Miss Sunshine":

"Fuck a lotta women. Not just one woman, a LOTTA women."

Not that I'm condoning it or anything, just thought the quote was necessary =P

[Kirano]

I'll talk to you on MSN.

[Aero]

Basically, you can translate what I said as:


Enjoy being single while you can.



I've been single for a year now, and I'm loving it. Being only 17, I don't want to be caught up in another relationship. Women tend to do cruel things at times, and I just don't feel like being but in that crap again until I find a mature female that I can compare to and whatnot.


So don't do exactly as I said. I'm just saying enjoy being single while it lasts.

[Kirano]

Originally posted by Gokua
I've been single for a year now, and I'm loving it.

Pfft, I've been single for 13 months, and loving it.

[Captain Silver]

Gokua is confused about his sexuality, trust me.

[Spencinator]

Originally posted by Pui Pui
Gokua is confused about his sexuality, trust me.

Kind of like how you are?! =O OH BURN!!!

EDIT: Oops, er, sorry for spamming your topic Migoren. >_<